My ex got married 20-days after he dumped me. It felt like a bad movie but it was my real life.

I remember feeling so disappointed that he didn't fight for us. Seeing him replace me so quickly, as if I meant nothing. Believing love like this will never come around again. Feeling physically ill just imagining him with her. Reapplying my liquid eyeliner over and over because I couldn't stop crying long enough for it to dry. 

I didn't have the luxury of having a conversation with him to get any answers. He was busy playing husband to his new wife. And I was broken hearted, watching him via social media erase every trace of me with her existence. 

From heartbroken to empowered.

I immediately started to see my former coach, who I stopped seeing, once I got into the relationship with my ex. RED FLAG #1: I stopped doing the things that brought me pleasure and supported my personal growth. 

I began to rediscover my identity after having merged my identity with his for so long. I forgot what type of music I liked to listen to because we always listed to his. I forgot what my favorite ice cream flavor was. When we walked down the ice cream aisle together to find a flavor to share, I always went with what he wanted. I rediscovered what I liked to do because I took on all his interests so he would stay interested in me.

I began to look at why I made the decisions I made. I was making decisions out of fear that I wasn't enough. That if I didn't do x, y, and z, he wouldn't love me. I wasn't making decisions for myself, my desires, or my needs. I was making everything about the guy, when really, it was about myself.

After all my formative years of believing men had the power, I finally recognized, I had the power all along. It's just that no one ever taught me it was there or how to use it. Now, I'm obsessed with helping women heal their heartbreak wounds so that they feel safe to open their hearts again, and feel empowered in their lives and relationships!